It was appropriately while looking at myself in the mirror when my reflections on this all began...
"Comparison is the thief of Joy."
Introducing The Blog Hop Comparison: Thief of Joy?
|IVT Trng.,Medical Ward, VMMC, 2009|
I remembered how we perused the charts of each patient in the hospital reading the doctor's progress notes. Everyday, looking at how every intervention has augmented a person's life... Studying them in comparison with others of the same disease.
While it holds true that certain medications work in patients with the same cases, each one of them is treated individually and at a personal level.
Now, in a different work but still browsing papers, we take note how much an article improves after every revision in comparison to the original ones the doctors submitted.
Looking at both circumstances, comparison was used to identify a result, to conduct further researches in order to advance science and to ameliorate a patient's condition.
Comparison is in itself a healthy word as competition could be. It could be used in cases of discernment ~ comparing states of consolation and desolation or to weigh options to aid in decision making.
What is more interesting is the phrase I read from Solvita Bennett's article. She started with a quote by Max Frisch,
"Jealousy is the fear of comparison."
She goes on further by stating that jealousy come from your lower self, and IT is a thief who robs you of the joy you can feel when you share.
I think it isn't the act of comparison itself that needs to be checked but the emotions it evokes when one does it. We should also be aware why we do it.
So, it was appropriately when I looked in the mirror that I see myself... what I have and what I lack...
then I look at others...trapped in this desire to be better...
"Wishing me like to one more rich in hope, Featured like him, like him with friends possessed,
Desiring this man's art, and that man's scope, With what I most enjoy contented least;"
-When in disgrace with fortune and men's eyes, Sonnet 29, William Shakespeare-
Then I fix my eyes on God. I remember when I was younger how much I rant and rave over my co-travellers, comparing myself to their journey and my SD says,
"Look further...out there...
not at her...not at him...
but there at the road..."
- a rephrase of 'not gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction' by Antoine de Saint-Exupery
So I'll now hop on to my friends' blogs today ~ hitting that direction where love leads me.